As I watched the summer wind down and the kids finish their seasons, I noticed how quickly they jumped right into fall ball, basketball, soccer and of course school. It all just runs together these days. No time to reflect really on anything.
And I am behind on my blogs.....
To me, a blog has to be something that sticks with me for a while. It isn't just blogging to get something written. So...I am going to start with one that has stuck. There are 4 in my head, so I should be able to keep Samantha happy for a week or so.
I'll start with the one that has been there the longest.
A dad called me to tell me that his son had made the varsity baseball team this past spring at his high school. He had waited and planned and practiced for years for this to happen and as a "senior", he had won the spot.
Then he hit me with the bomb. His son decided not to play.
"Dad, it's never enough. It's never good enough. Nothing I ever do is good enough. I made the team but I still don't feel like I've done enough. I just don't want to do it anymore"
Grab your children tonight, (or your team), no matter what they are doing and tell them that they are the most amazing gifts you have ever been given. Tell them that they have "done enough" to make you complete. Just by showing up on this planet, they have made you the happiest and luckiest parent on earth. Tell them how thankful you are to be with them.
Sometimes, WE just get so busy. We are working, coaching, parenting, and all that stuff.
I got an email from a dad just this week and he said, "I coached 4 teams, baseball and basketball but I forgot to be a dad". We all have done that. We get so busy with everybody else's kid, we forget our own. Personally, I struggled with that a lot for the 22 years I coached. I was harder on my own kids that the others at times. I was so busy taking care of everybody else, I forgot my own!!
You officially have been given permission today to enjoy your kids. And don't be so hard on yourself!! We have a tendency to over-analyze this stuff.
In the Keepers of the Sandlot, the last chapter is called, "The Ride Home". Check it out. "On the ride home, the game is over. Your child got excited to play the game and now the game is over and they are on to the next thing. Don't make too much of a win or too much of a loss, just tell them that you love them and that you loved watching them play.
Because one day, you'll ride home alone and you'll wish you had those days back. Make every ride home a great one. You can do it, that is good enough.